Great things never come from comfort zones. This is a motto I love living by.
Recently I was asked to entertain the guests at my 10 year high school reunion, by making a speech to ‘reminisce on the good old times’. I jumped at the opportunity with excitement. Sure, I knew I’d be a bit nervous in the lead up, but I now know the importance of these nerves… the importance of getting out of my comfort zone.
I regularly ‘put myself out there’ and speak at health events around Adelaide. I can genuinely say I now enjoy public speaking and spreading the healthy word through these presentations.
I wasn’t always this confident
If you were to ask me this 10 years ago, I would have freaked out and immediately backed away.
“I cant do that.” “What if I stuff up?” “What if no one finds me funny?!”
Although I earned top grades at school and was very sporty, if you speak to any of my family, old teachers and long term friends, they’ll tell you, I was a quiet and shy girl. I was scared of confrontation and my inner introvert much preferred one on one conversations, rather than group meet ups.
I was constantly trying to impress everyone, and be someone who I wasn’t. In my teens, I would use alcohol to overcome my social anxiety and shyness, to became loud, confident and entertaining at parties.
Obviously this was not this was not the answer to my confidence issues. I was just using alcohol to be someone I wasn’t, to gain the extrovert traits I was so desperately seeking. I was hiding/ numbing/ avoiding the real issue- fear.
Turn fear into confidence
It wasn’t until I started my work in clinic, that I began to face my fears. I was put in many new situations, that oozed with nerves… consulting with patients, putting into practice all the info I had learned over my studies and communicating on a professional level.
Nerves, anxiety and fear are normal. They are produced when we are put in vulnerable situations, such as doing something new, competing or the big one, public speaking.
To grow, is to change. When you push yourself out of your comfort zone, you are allowing yourself to grow. You must get out of that comfortable bubble, to move towards your goals and achieve great things.
Think of the last time you did something new. How proud (and relieved) did you feel? You turned that fear into confidence. There are only so many excuses that one can give, before having to jump in and just do it.
“Most people filter life through different thought processes:
1. Craving. A moving towards something, or crave identity, which may lead to excessses and addictions.
2. Aversion. A tendency to pull back or away from things, seeing them (things/ situations/ people) to dislike.
3. Sleepiness. Claiming they’re tired all of the time. Tired of this and that.
4. Restlessness. A need to be constantly on the move. They tend to fidget, conversation hop and always have things on.
5. Doubt. Paralysis in every decision…doubting whether you are in the right place, wearing the wight clothes etc.
These thought processes are based around fear in different ways…and ultimatley trigger stress responses in the body. Being stuck in ‘fight and flight’ stress mode is a known cause of digestive dysfunction and a contributor to auto- immune conditions. ” Dr Shireen Hodgetts, Chiropractor and NET Practitioner, explains.
The value of goal setting
To make your goals reality, follow these simple steps:
- Write down what you want to achieve, alternatively make a vision board, full of pictures and words that inspire you to create your goals and dreams.
- Find an accountability partner and a tough one at that. Someone who you feel comfortable in sharing your goals with and who will keep on track, to make them a reality.
- Say it to yourself…. and to others. I will confidently present to the public.
- Visualise yourself confidently playing out your goal.
- Do your homework and research how others are achieving what you want to do or be.
- Practice, practice and more practice.
- Be genuine and honest. People want you for your uniqueness, not a copy cat version of your idol.
- Go on, get out their and do it!
- Enjoy yourself 🙂
See it, believe it, feel it, achieve it.
Embrace your uniqueness
I am now more content than ever with who I am. I have learnt to embrace my introvert ways (by never neglecting ‘me time’), but also giving myself healthy challenges to step up and out of my comfort zone. In doing this, I feel more proud, satisfied and confident than ever.
Stepping out of your personal comfort zone does not have to be scary or overwhelming. Start with following the above steps, for small realistic goals. As you realise your true potential, you can challenge yourself further.
The sky’s the limit!
What is something you would love to be able to achieve by the end of 2014? Comment below!
If you want to work on your mind- body health, this one may be for you.
Love, health & happiness,